Anger Management for kids is real and can be overwhelming for children and parents/teachers. Do you have an angry student you are trying to connect with students? I know you are a good teacher who cares about your students because clearly if you are reading this, you wish to help them. So here is how this works…I want to help you so you can help students! Score… and just like that, everyone wins.
You know the kid that stares at you like you are completely crazy? The one that is disrespectful and is mean to other students. Or who is quite and never says a word with their head laid down during class. Does any of this sound familiar? Hopefully, if you are reading this, you are looking to help this student in your classroom. For that, you are able to change this kid’s life. Because this kid NEEDS someone to step up and invest in their life. I know that was super deep but it’s true! Everyone needs someone. Often times the students sitting in our classroom ask for help or get attention in the most unwanted ways. Stay with me here, let’s change this kids life! Dive into helping students learn how to process emotions and be helpful with anger management for kids.
Think about the student for a minute. What is their home life like? Do they have a support system? If so, who makes up that support system? Do you see a pattern of poor behavior choices? What does that look like? What type of body language do they have?
These are all important questions when processing anger management for kids I would like for you to think about and truly consider. Do not look at this at making excuses for the students. Let’s face it, we all have had hard times and difficult experiences. In fact, most would say they felt some type of benefit from experiencing difficult times. However, oftentimes SOMEONE or SOMETHING helped you through that undesired experience. Do you see where I going with this? I want you to be that person. Ask the hard questions. Get to know the kid everyone has labeled as “the bad kid”. Give second, third, and even fourth chances if needed. Be this kids champion.
When a student is angry, what happens? Is there a trigger? How can you PREVENT the triggers of anger? Please consider the answers to these questions when you are trying to connect with students and help with anger management for kids.
Tear down the Walls of Anger
Kids are just like adults. They don’t want to get hurt, they want people to like them, they want to feel loved and cared for. Unfortunately, kids have a much more difficult time getting out of a situation that could make them feel unloved or uncared for. This can cause or turn into anger. Here is where someone outside of the situation or directly related to the situation can make a huge impact. Connect with students. Allow them time and space to discuss whatever they feel is important. It could take time to discover the anger triggers or what the student is reacting to. Work on making connections and establishing a relationship while incorporating anger management for kids activities.
Think about when you were in school. Describe your favorite teacher. I bet you are thinking of that special teacher that went above and beyond, yet he/she didn’t have to. That teacher made time to get to know you and made you feel important. Often times angry kids are acting out as a cry for help or attention. They do not get attention to making good choices so they decide to get attention from making poor choices. Sounds familiar? What if the student started getting attention for just being present? Would it help with the student’s attitude? Try it and see. Ask questions and get to know the student. Ask questions about their favorite hobbies, sports, foods, activities, etc. Find something in common and start there when working with anger management with kids.
Activities on Anger Management for kids
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Activities on Anger Management will help you equipped students to process emotions and calm down when they feel overwhelmed. I created an Anger Management Activities that are tailored for children. Included in this bundle is a journal,
Give responsibility or specific task to complete
Consider this, how many times is the “angry kid” chosen to run an errand or be a helper? Let’s change that. Speak with the student about responsibility and you think they are the perfect person to begin helping you out without whatever you need. Ask the student how they feel about this and if they are up for the job. I recommend telling the student to think about it and let you know if they would like to help out. The reason by giving the student a “task” is to get them moving and thinking about something else. Providing a task for them to look forward to and feel special as well as teaching responsibility.
Don’t give up
Often times, students who are angry do not want to talk. Keep in mind with working with anger management for kids, sometimes students lash out at people who they know who care about them. Don’t give up but don’t overdo it. Allow the student time to warm up to the idea that you WANT to help. After the breakthrough happens, you will be able to better tell when to take a step back if needed. Just don’t give up because this will take time and is not an easy process. Be the person who the student trust, and feels secure interacting and speaking with.
Teach how to process emotions
Sounds simple right? Consider this, what is NO ONE has even shown students what appropriate and inappropriate reactions are? This blew my mind. Think about this… I found out why the student was angry (check). We are working through preventing angry outbursts during class that disrupted everyone (check). But I haven’t spoken or shown my students how to react when they are overwhelmed or angry. Teach your students how to process emotions. Give examples, act out different scenarios, draw pictures, watch videos, whatever works best for your class. When kids are stressed or overwhelmed often they become impulsive. They get into trouble and the first thing the teachers asked is, “well why did you do that”. The student replies, “I don’t know”. And that is an honest answer for them.
The Chill Spot
Give students a specific place to calm down. A calm down corner is a great place for students to complete their Anger journal or Anger Management Activities. The Chill Spot provides a specific location that is comfortable, and calming for students. Check out my calm down corner ideas and calm down corner printables right here…
Anger Management Reads aloud
Read a book with the student. This will hopefully establish a connection with the student and the student will see they are not alone or should feel different. Emotions are something that everyone has. Also, this will provide an opportunity to discuss dealing with anger and how to properly handle yourself when you are angry. Here are a few suggestions:
I sure hope this information helps you on your journey to help with an angry student. If you have questions or feel I can help further, please e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I am happy to help!